30-year-old woman refuses to postpone her long-planned honeymoon after her 26-year-old sister-in-law schedules their wedding date for the same weekend, causing family drama as she intends to skip the wedding: '[Said we're] sabotaging her big day'

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Emma Saven
Oct 30, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

Some might even argue that planning the perfect honeymoon can be just as demanding, detail-oriented, and devoted as planning the most dazzling wedding! Flights, accommodations, and the most ideal dates are all integral parts of the decision-making process, a process that takes a lot of time. For many people, the honeymoon is oftentimes even more looked forward to than the actual wedding day…The calm after the storm. So there is no surprise that this new wifey is fuming at the fact that her new future sister-in-law has chosen your exact honeymoon dates to schedule their big wedding day, expecting her to cancel their plans at the drop of a bouquet. 

They've had these honeymoon dates picked out for 8 months, and her hubby's sister has just swooped in and claimed the golden dates as her own. The best part? Is that she's playing the victim when the couple refuses to postpone their trip, claiming that they're the reason she's crying herself to sleep every night…The whole situation seems a bit peculiar. Surely her husband and his sister's parents were both aware of the overlapping dates, so why did no one intervene before the Save The Dates hit the postbox floor? 

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  • Both couples are refusing to reschedule as family members fight to keep the peace. Some could say that a wedding is more important, whilst others can acknowledge that the honeymoon was planned months before the sister picked a wedding date. No matter how many back-and-forths, he-said-she-saids are happening, there are only two people who can tick that RSVP box… 

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  • AIO for refusing to give up my honeymoon dates because my sister-in-law “accidentally” booked her wedding the same week?

    My husband and I have had our honeymoon booked for 8 months flights, hotel, everything. It's the first real vacation we've planned
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  • together, and we're leaving the Monday after our 1-year anniversary. Last week, his sister (26F)
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  • announced that she's getting married and her chosen date? The same weekend we leave. When my husband pointed that out, she
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  • said, "Oh, I didn't realize! But it would mean so much if you postponed your trip. Family comes first.”
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  • We've already paid thousands, the hotel is non-refundable, and my time off at work was approved months ago. I told her gently that
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  • we can't change it. She got quiet, then started a group chat with the family saying we're "ditching her wedding for a vacation."
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  • Now his parents are calling me "selfish" and saying I'm "trying to sabotage her big day." My husband is caught in the middle
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  • and asked if I'd just move the trip a few days later to "keep the peace." I said no it's not my fault she picked the same week when
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  • she's known our plans for months. So now apparently, I'm "the reason she's crying every night" and "turning the family against her."
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  • AIO for refusing to postpone our honeymoon just to attend her last- minute wedding?
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  • OP storm_in_heels09 Hey, thank you all for your suggestions and taking out time to read gives different perspectives i will read each positive comment! Means a lot!! The people who are spreading hate, or negativity i feel sorry for you! goodluck!
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  • Accomplished Jump3866 NOR, and HIS Parents KNEW your dates as well....ASK THEM Why the Sabotage, or are they willing to give y'all the $$$ you would lose to change dates, cus you WILL need to plead a case at work!
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  • Bid Revolutionary945 NOR. Oh boo hoo. Tell bridezilla, your manipulative MIL and fam that the trip was planned and paid for, nonrefundable, and you are going. It was done ages before her wedding date was planned and if she wants you there, SHE can change the date. I am so sick of 'family comes first'. Turn it around on her and tell her to change her date because family comes first and you want to be there. Otherwise, go on your honeymoon as planned.
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  • Empty-Stomach 5873 If family comes first then she would of made sure that at least her siblings could attend when picking the date.
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  • Gringa-Loca26 Is your husband always this spineless?
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  • randomlyconfused2990 I'd send screenshots of the receipts with dates of purchase to the group text and bounce
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  • Livvysgma This is suspicious. If she just announced last week, how does she already have a venue, flowers, etc. booked? She can change her wedding date.
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  • Odd Welcome 7940 NOR... Create a group chat and send a bill. They need to cover every expense and lost days wages etc associated with changing anything. Send it to the whole group and remind them to cover their share before they think they can speak up.
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  • Advanced-Mail-4407 NOR. Just stream the wedding. They're making this too much of an issue. If it were me, all I care about is the person I'm marrying; not their family members.
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  • howardtheguineapig Tell sister/fam IL that you would gladly push back dates as long as their footing the bill for any additional expenses. Anything you have planned would have to get rescheduled, and now that its so close may not have availability.
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  • Chilling_Storm "family comes first" Bitch you should have checked the calendar first then to see if your dates were compatible with that family you think comes first. Bullshit for keeping the peace, if SIL wants to keep the peace, she can move her wedding to another day. She did this to herself. NOR so what if you miss her wedding, she didn't think ahead or even consider you and your husband
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